So. A restart yet again, this time with a strategic withdrawal.
I suppose that this may begin to sound repetative but … there is a reason that this blog is called “Failure = Success”. Failure is an inevitable part of success, and as the japanese proverb says,
Fall down seven times, get up eight.
In other words, keep trying until you succeed. I think that it is particularly apt in my case because I don’t know that I’ve ever set reasonable goals in my life. I may set a reasonable goal, such as finishing a marathon, which is achievable with the life that I’ve been lucky enough to be given. But I am never satisfied with setting just one reasonable goal – I get expansive and add another and another and another – until it is clear to anyone with two brain cells that I can’t do them all. Which, in general, doesn’t bother me – I like to think it keeps me challenged for my reach to exceed my grasp.
Aside: my officemate has returned from his awesome vacation to Japan and brought me back a Daruma doll – with my bad habit in mind… The doll has no eyes and one is supposed to fill in a single circular eye while thinking of a wish/goal, and fill in the other when the wish/goal is realized. I told him he should have better brought me 100 dolls 🙂
I don’t think this is really my problem with my resolutions. I began this project knowing this, allowing for a rotation of resolutions as the year went by, and January went well. But at the end of January, I was hammered by my Dad falling and being hospitalized, and February and much of March were a wash with associated stress and time and attention away from my home in New Jersey. Then I was (and am) out of balance between fun, rest, work, worry, and obligation.
So I am starting again. This time my focus is simple: keep to my diet, and regain my balance. So for April, my only restrictive discipline is to stay on my diet. Everything else is for the greater good of my mental well being:
- getting enough sleep (initially by allowing enough time to sleep 9 hours, prepared to sleep less)
- Accepting no unnecessary obligations. (learning to say “no” to things that aren’t really important to me)
- Doing no unnecessary errands. Run out of something – wait until later
- Doing no unnecessary chores. All those things that I’d like to do, but don’t really have to (filing paperwork, spring cleaning, blog writing) – not doing them
- Spending my weekday (and hopefully weekend) nights mostly relaxing (reading, watching TV, speaking with friends) and not creating pressure cooker lists of things to work on at home.
- Leave work at 5 unless necessary to stay later
I’ve practiced the last couple of days and I have to say – while it’s lovely to relax, it’s alot harder than I thought it would be.